Transformation comes in many different ways. For me, one of the most powerful ways is pushing the boundaries of my comfort zone, the mundane view, unwritten morals of how we should express ourselves. Reckless Leather has been an inspiring platform to go beyond limiting beliefs, expressing my sexuality and sensuality in a beautiful and playful way, creating a unique style that evoke curiosity and trill. I encourage you to find your own unique and trilling style with Reckless Leather. The variety of colors, textures and styles are limitless. Lori Jo will create your best masterpiece.
A few months ago I voiced to Tzveta that I had something on my bucket list – modeling. It’s not something I could ever do, being 5’2″ and curvy (aka big boobs), so I didn’t model until I voiced my wish to the right person LOL… and Lori asked if i would be one of the models for her new leather venture – Reckless Leather. It was a totally professional photo shoot and we had wardrobe and lights and camera and action… big action! I hope you take a look around – you’ll see my mug and various clothed body parts throughout the site! This was great fun and a dream come true – modeling was awesome, and it was one of the top five days of my life!
If you are reading this now as someone who is new to the world of BDSM, you may have some preconceived notions about BDSM from various media outlets. Perhaps you have heard of the book and movie “50 Shades of Grey” and its presentation of an alarming interaction between a vulnerable female and an exploitative male. You are shown a scenario where the male lead targets and lures the victim with his vast wealth to essentially buy the victim’s affections in order to convince her to agree to a nondisclosure agreement and lifestyle dom/sub contract. This may give you a bad taste in your mouth, and this is a prime example of how NOT to start your exploration of BDSM.
If you are new to BDSM, do not consider agreeing to a binding lifestyle contract with someone you just met; the keyword is “trust.”
Engagement in BDSM via curiosity based role-play scenarios or the more serious continuous arrangements should be with partner(s) you trust with your well being and are comfortable with to explore acts revolving around restraint, control, and/or pain. All parties involved have the right to stop any interaction going on for whatever reason, classically with “safe words,” and ignoring a request to stop is abusive; consent is king. If you feel like you are being coerced into doing something you are not in the right state of mind to do, then this should be a red flag for you to not engage in said activity. Be aware of where you and your partner(s) are at as you venture forth, in order to prevent undesired physical and/or psychological trauma.
Perhaps the most important word in BDSM is “discipline,” starting with discipline of self, for both you and the well being of your partner(s).
If you and your partner(s) are both mature and respectful of each other, you will be leagues ahead of the typical toxic relationship, where partners conceal and abuse each other until the relationship implodes. On the other hand, if you are using BDSM as a cover to take out your own issues out on your partner, please take a step back and reevaluate your motives. Open communication and honesty with yourself and your partner(s) are critical in these interactions, as you and your partner(s) explore alternative ways to engage with one another. If conducted properly, you will be on a journey of mutual discovery of self and your partner(s), opening up a realm of possibilities encircled by consent and trust.
~ Content Writer for Reckless Leather ~